Reinject the Spark with a Romantic Mini-break08:21
With the pressures and constant demands of everyday life, all too often important relationships can fall by the wayside. Of course, this is understandable. After a tiring day at work, we perhaps don’t have the energy reserves necessary to surprise our loved ones and keep the spark alive. Unfortunately, this can mean that our relationships can become predictable and unsatisfying.
Every now and then, we owe it to ourselves and our partners to remember what attracted us to one another in the first place. Commitments to our work and children are, of course, important, but making romance a priority is equally essential.
From time to time, every relationship needs a boost to keep it fresh. One study published in the Wisconsin Medical Journal showed that couples who holidayed together frequently reported heightened satisfaction with their marriages. Another concluded that holidays result in increased bonding, solidarity and communication. This is hardly surprising when you take into consideration the many ways in which a holiday can revitalise your relationship.
You have the time to get reacquainted. We all change, and though it is important to remember the people we were when we first met, it is also important to connect with the person your partner has become. A holiday is a prime opportunity to have a heart-to-heart talk, discuss new hobbies and share plans for the future. Without this effort, you might wake up one day and realise that, history aside, you don’t have much in common with your partner. Cut off all the distractions, turn off your mobile phones and escape to the countryside. The seclusion and intimacy will foster communication and demonstrate that you are making an effort to reconnect.
You can catch up on sleep. Don’t underestimate the importance of sleep to a relationship. Disjointed sleeping patterns might be necessary due to our career decisions, but couples who don’t share the same bed or the same sleeping pattern run the risk of creating an emotional disturbance that can affect their relationships. Our mutual sleeping habits can even impact communication, which has a knock-on effect on the entire family. One source claims that close proximity while sleeping enhances the connection between two people. Stress-free holidays provide a great opportunity to turn off your alarm clocks, rekindle an emotional connection and catch up on all that valuable sleep.
You can develop new, joint passions. We all wish we had more free time. Think of all the hobbies we could explore if only we had enough time and fewer pressures demanding our attention. Holidays allow us this freedom. Find something that you and your partner are both interested in, something new and immersive. The joint enthusiasm for this new hobby and the teamwork required will help to strengthen your relationship in no time. After all, despite what we may have been told about opposites attracting, for long-term success it is our similarities and joint passions that encourage an enduring relationship.
You can enjoy a mutual adventure. It may feel tempting to remain firmly within your comfort zone, but a little bit of excitement and intrigue is always healthy for a relationship. Talk with your partner and find a UK destination that you have never before visited but have always wanted to see. Do some research into the exciting landmarks and tourist attractions that appeal to the both of you. Consider taking part in activities, such as skydiving, that you’ve never even thought of before. These joint experiences will bring you closer together and encourage you to see one another in a different light.
Be a relationship role model. If you have children, it’s especially important that you take the time to show your partner that you still consider them a priority. Our children might be number one on our lists, but there is nothing selfish about taking a couple’s vacation and leaving your children to bond with their grandparents for a long weekend. This sends a crucial message to your little ones about the importance of marriage, evident by how much time you put into maintaining it and how much respect you are showing one another in terms of time and focus.
Done well, a romantic couple’s holiday can do the world of good for any relationship. After all, a study recently reported that the secrets to a happy marriage include two holidays a year, meaningful conversation and eleven cuddles a fortnight. However, it is not as simple as booking a mini-break and hoping for the best. Unplug, forget about Facebook and put work to the back of our mind. If you’re inspired, take the initiative and book a last-minute holiday right now – it’ll be an incredible surprise that will more than likely pay off.
About the Author: Diane Pearce is an entrepreneur who has been buying and letting holiday cottages for 15 years. She is passionate about providing last-minute getaways to those seeking a retreat. She now owns BimbleBox, a popular holiday cottage rental website that exists to provide beautiful and affordable escapes to remember.